Text by Rheynalyn Altoveros
Read:
The Song of Solomon 1:15-16 (NIV)
He
How beautiful you are, my darling!
Oh, how beautiful!
Your eyes are doves.
She
How handsome you are, my beloved!
Oh, how charming!
And our bed is verdant.
Reflect:
Have you also noticed the exchange of words throughout the book The Song of Solomon? There may be no coherent story in it, but the expression of love is so evident. The bride and the king, Solomon, constantly admire and delight in each other.
Sometimes, it could be a real struggle, both for men and women, to share how they feel. While women (but not all) have this sort of expectation that men should know or feel it, men, on the other hand, feel like it is not always necessary.
However, these conversations, no matter how trivial they seem to a party, are needed in a relationship. They hold a couple together and help build that intimacy that we desire. Talking about your feelings creates connections.
It’s more than planning what to eat for today or where to go next weekend. Have you tried asking your spouse how they felt when you told them this and that? Have you tried affirming your better half for a behavior or action that you find praiseworthy? No matter how small a talk is, the more you do it, the more you’ll understand each other. The more you know what’s happening in your partner’s life, the stronger your bond becomes.
Remember Jesus? We all know how strong His connection is to His father. They’re not a husband and a wife, but the way they communicate and share their thoughts is the best model we could ever have in any relationship.
Take note of the effort Jesus did to wake up early to converse with Him. I would like to assume that their daily communion built up the faith Jesus has in His father’s love for him. From this relationship, they were able to work together in the same business of giving life and bringing love and hope to the world.
Can you imagine what it would be like if we can connect the same with our husband or wife through our words and expressions of love? Just like King Solomon and his bride. Just like Jesus and the Father.
Respond:
Friends, our words and expressions are powerful things in our romantic relationship. They can either destroy or build what we have. Let’s choose to achieve the latter.
Have you tried complimenting your partner today? If not, then do so. It wouldn’t hurt to initiate a small talk once in a while.
Above all, keep Him at the center. It works the best that way.
Rheyn is an agriculturist and an aspiring best-selling author. She lives in Bay, Laguna with her husband Pau and their little one, Fave. She currently works as a freelance writer but will be finishing her MS degree soon. She is passionate about seeing the youth surrendering their lives to Jesus and following His ways. What she likes most about the Word of God is the life and reality it carries, how it springs to life whenever she needs it.
AUTHOR: RHEYNALYN ALTOVEROS